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Monday, October 13, 2014
The Silent Ones...
Just imagine if you were being abused by your partner and
police officers as well as the judicial system would not take you or your
claims seriously. At times even laughing
at you or accusing you of being the abuser.Without shelters to turn to, and very limited access to resources for
help.Well, when most people think of
domestic violence they automatically envision a man as the abuser.That is a thought process that desperately
needs to change.
I am writing this blog post to help inform, educate, as
well as create awareness for the silent ones, male victims of domestic
violence.They are referred to as the
silent ones because they do not report the abuse for the reasons I mentioned
above and many others.Did you know that
over 40% of domestic violence victims are men?Or that over 830,000 men fall victim to domestic violence every year,
which adds up to every 37.8 seconds a man is being abused in America.And that sadly there are over 4,000 domestic
violence programs in the U.S. but very few offer the same services to men as
they do women.
I found it rather disturbing, especially after my Google
searches, that I could not find a single shelter that accepts men in the
Phoenix-Metro area in Arizona.The only
exception, after searching for a while, is a national hotline number (which we
will get to in a minute).I found even
more disturbing news the more I searched…to sum it up it appears and has been
mentioned in several places that no one wants or even cares to bother with
funding research nor resources for male victims!
So what are these poor men supposed to do or even go to
seek help?The first step in getting
that help is to reach out.Now you are
probably asking how, after all you have just read.The Domestic Abuse Hotline for Men is the
only place in the United States that offers support and help in finding
resources, specifically for men.There,
men will find options, support, and help understanding that the abuse is not
their fault nor is it acceptable.The
Domestic Abuse Hotline for Men can be reached from anywhere in the U.S. and
Canada, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.Just call 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).
steps for abused men to take are:
yourself to be provoked into any kind of retaliation. If men have to be in an argument, do it in a
room with two doors so they can leave; a lot of times a woman will block the
door, the man will try to move her, and that will be enough for him to get
everything! Go to your doctor and tell
him what happened, even if he doesn't ask how you were injured. Take
photographs of your injuries, and make sure if the police are called that they
take a report, and get a copy of the report for yourself.
Work with an
advocate from a domestic violence program to get a restraining order. Not only will this help protect you from an
abusive partner, but it will also allow you to ask for temporary custody of
your children in order to protect them from the domestic violence.
Get counseling so
you can start healing, and get legal advice.
Talk with your
family and friends who can help support you.
They WILL understand!
Abusers are good at making you feel isolated and alone,
but you're not.Male domestic violence
happens to all types of people: doctors, lawyers, laborers, military members,
and the list goes on. The biggest hurdle they face is finding someone who
believes them. If they are believed, they can get help, and that's why I have
written this blog post today.
Don’t forget the Domestic Abuse Hotline for Men is
always open and ready to help you just call 1-888-743-5754!